During my research I have discovered the modern gentleman’s roots go as far back as (in some cases) Rome and the post Constantine era it
was the Nobleman or the Gentry these were men of good (traceable) breading one whose lineage are heralded with accounts of his ancestors bravery and good works a man of financial means.
The gentlemen of today are gentlemen of conduct; they follow strict codes of honor and etiquette. However the latter of the two “etiquette” can be very complicated because it changes from culture to culture based primarily on the culture’s religious/ethos and history. If a gentleman wishes to travel it requires extensive study and devotion.
An upright Gentleman takes the time to learn, ask questions and practices them as a sign of his respect for the people he values. In the coming months I will be blogging about these differences and sharing with you other tidbits of information.
First let’s focus on the ten basic rules of honor, or as I call it The Code of Honor these rules are based on the code of chivalry but are still relevant today. I will break each one down during future editions of this blog. Feel free to ask questions or comment….enjoy.
To seek excellence in all endeavors is expected of a gentleman, martial and otherwise, seeking strength to be used in the service of justice, rather than in personal aggrandizement.
Seek always the path of ‘right’, unencumbered by bias or personal interest. Recognize that the sword of justice can be a terrible thing, so it must be tempered by humanity and mercy. If the ‘right’ you see rings agrees with others, and you seek it out without bending to the temptation for expediency, then you will earn renown beyond measure
Be known for unwavering commitment to the people and ideals you choose to live by. There are many places where compromise is expected; loyalty is not amongst them
A Gentleman is required defend those who depend upon them. Seek always to defend you’re your faith, your family, your nation and those to whom you believe worthy of loyalty
Being a Gentleman often means choosing the more difficult path, the personally expensive one. Be prepared to make personal sacrifices in service of the precepts and people you value. At the same time, seek wisdom to see that stupidity and courage are cousins. Courage also means taking the side of truth in all matters, rather than seeking the expedient lie. Seek the truth whenever possible, but remember to temper justice with mercy, or the pure truth can bring grief
A Gentleman must have faith in God and his word, for this faith creates roots and gives hope against the despair that human failings create.
Value first the contributions of others; do not boast of your own accomplishments, let others do this for you. Tell the deeds of others before your own, according them the renown rightfully earned through virtuous deeds. In this way being a Gentleman is well done and glorified, helping not only the gentle spoken of but also all who show themselves as a true man
Be generous in so far as your resources allow; largesse (generosity) used in this way counters gluttony. It also makes the path of mercy easier to discern when a difficult decision of justice is required
Seek great stature of character by holding to the virtues and duties of honor, realizing that though all the ideals cannot be reached, the quality of striving towards them ennobles the spirit, growing the character from dust towards the heavens. A Gentleman’s nobility also has the tendency to influence others, offering a compelling example of what can be done in the service of rightness.
Seek to emulate everything I have spoken of as sincerely as possible, not for the reason of personal gain but because it is right. Do not restrict your exploration to a small world, but seek to infuse every aspect of your life with these qualities. Should you succeed in even a tiny measure then
you will be well remembered as a Gentleman filled with quality and virtue.